The fear of rejection is a powerful feeling that can obstruct our personal development journey by keeping us from stepping outside of our comfort zones to learn and experience something new. Rejection in public can be an especially terrifying thought that can keep you from speaking up for yourself and your ideas. It can also keep you from pursuing relationships and work opportunities. Many of us have a conflict between wanting to conquer the world and our fear of failure and rejection.
The best way to overcome fear is to create it, and to put ourselves in situations where rejection is going to happen. This is much easier said than done, but I came across a Tedx talk that I feel breaks down this concept to feel more doable on your own level. In his video, “What I learned from 100 days of rejection”, Jia Jiang talks about creating a situation where he is experiencing rejection over and over again in order to desensitize himself from the pain associated with it. The more he experienced rejection, the better he got at understanding how to structure his requests in a way that would more likely get a “yes” answer, as well as learning the importance of following up a “no” with questions to understand why.
Rejection is a necessary part of social change. Unfortunately, rejection in some form is inevitable, but it is not about the rejection that will change and define you. It is about what you do next. You can fear rejection and avoid it at all costs, or you can embrace rejection and turn it into opportunity. Check out Jia Jiang’s blog HERE, where he video documented each day of his journey of rejection. It’s actually pretty hilarious! Jia got his idea by finding www.rejectiontherapy.com, which encourages you to seek out 30 days of rejection. Anyone willing to try it out? I encourage you to seek out one thing today that you can do which will lead to rejection. Try again tomorrow and the next day and document how it felt. Did it get easier? Share your own experiences in the comments!
Alright guys, I am taking my own advice and going way out of my comfort zone this week. A little over a month ago, a lovely classmate and friend, encouraged me to go to Australia with the Nevada Global Business program. I kept thinking about how amazing it would be, but had a feeling it wouldn’t happen because first off, I would be travelling by myself, or without my closest family members or friends, and second, I would be leaving my husband and two kids for two weeks which made me uncomfortable only because I knew I would miss them so much. I had about a day to decide because the deadline was passing, so I just went for it and said, “Yes!”
Tomorrow I leave for Australia, and although I am anxious and incredibly nervous, I know that travel is such a great way to open your eyes to different cultures and perspectives. Equally as important to me will be the confidence that I build from stepping out of my comfort zone. Sometimes I can get in my own head about what to expect, but the only thing I can do is really to just DO it. Then I will know that it isn’t as scary as I thought it would be and I’ll find that the benefits of my personal growth outweigh the temporary anxiety of stepping out of my bubble.
Traveling gives you confidence to know that you can cope with new and challenging situations, whether it is a language barrier, losing your luggage, or getting lost. Overcoming the unexpected is very rewarding and shows yourself that you are more than capable of finding solutions. I am going into this adventure with an open mind and I am hoping to learn more about myself and others by getting out of my usual environment for two whole weeks. Maybe that isn’t a big deal for some, but for me it is substantial!
Social media makes the world feel much smaller than it is, and according to Thomas Friedman’s The World is Flat, globalization will continue to shrink and flatten the world through insourcing and outsourcing, global supply chains, and the rise of digital and mobile technology. After my 18 hour flight, I will let you guys know if that feels true. Any tips on traveling around Sydney is greatly appreciated! I challenge everyone to say “Yes” this week to something that feels scary, or out of reach. You don’t have to travel around the world to grow yourself, but in the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take. I’d also like to note that without my friend’s encouragement, there would be no way that I would have embarked on this adventure. So I urge everyone to find someone that pushes them out of their comfort zone and inspires you to be adventurous.