Facing Your Fear of Rejection

The fear of rejection is a powerful feeling that can obstruct our personal development journey by keeping us from stepping outside of our comfort zones to learn and experience something new.  Rejection in public can be an especially terrifying thought that can keep you from speaking up for yourself and your ideas. It can also keep you from pursuing relationships and work opportunities. Many of us have a conflict between wanting to conquer the world and our fear of failure and rejection.

The best way to overcome fear is to create it, and to put ourselves in situations where rejection is going to happen. This is much easier said than done, but I came across a Tedx talk that I feel breaks down this concept to feel more doable on your own level. In his video, “What I learned from 100 days of rejection”, Jia Jiang talks about creating a situation where he is experiencing rejection over and over again in order to desensitize himself from the pain associated with it. The more he experienced rejection, the better he got at understanding how to structure his requests in a way that would more likely get a “yes” answer, as well as learning the importance of following up a “no” with questions to understand why.

Rejection is a necessary part of social change. Unfortunately, rejection in some form is inevitable, but it is not about the rejection that will change and define you. It is about what you do next. You can fear rejection and avoid it at all costs, or you can embrace rejection and turn it into opportunity. Check out Jia Jiang’s blog HERE, where he video documented each day of his journey of rejection. It’s actually pretty hilarious! Jia got his idea by finding www.rejectiontherapy.com, which encourages you to seek out 30 days of rejection. Anyone willing to try it out? I encourage you to seek out one thing today that you can do which will lead to rejection. Try again tomorrow and the next day and document how it felt. Did it get easier? Share your own experiences in the comments!

2 thoughts on “Facing Your Fear of Rejection

  1. I read Jia’s book last year and was super impressed by the courage it took to actually get rejected 100 times. The book’s also really funny! He does a great job of recounting the most interesting and hilarious stories while working in surprising insights about rejection.

    I resonate with what you said here about rejection, and am starting my own 30 day rejection challenge today (https://chiubaka.com/rejection/november-month-rejection-challenges/). I’m in NYC right now, so I’m thinking I might go to a Halal cart and ask if I can prepare the next person’s meal haha.

    Have you done many of these yourself?


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